I think the best start is to look at some of the soft mod tutorials. there are various videos on Youtube, i recommend the ones by JCRocky5. Softmod or hardmod is really a preference thing, both will get the job done. I personally like TSOP mods, but when i started out I did the softmod, and got familiar with setting up by back games etc. perfoming the actual tsop mod is quite easy if you are somewhat comfortable with a soldering iron. Seems like you have a lot on your mind on what you want to do with this setup, but start small and tackle one thing at a time. Before you know it you'll be teaching other people how to do this. In order to get further help, learn the ropes a bit, watch some vidoes. This way when you have specific questions, people can help you. Good luck.